Started the year with some very good intentions, but ended up starting it as I spent the last year, or the last few for that matter, with a lie. I lied to someone about something totally lame, even silly and now that it is out there, the guilt has settled in and so has the remorse. I don't know how it starts, but once it does there is no stopping it. That being said, I have decided that my New Years Resolution is to work on me. I am going to stop lying to others and especially to myself, about everything. I am going to be honest and address the things in my life that are not in line with where I really need them to be, or want them to be.
To start, I have been denying that the drinking is a problem for longer than I can remember, which is a bad sign all on it's own. I have been telling myself that I have complete control and that I know what I am doing and if I wanted to, I could stop... But I guess that I just did not want to. I think that I like it, a lot. I don't know if I have ever had a normal relationship with alcohol, but months turn into years and here I am with what could have been a casual relationship, but is now a marriage. We live and breath one another and it has to stop. I feel like I am numbing myself to my life and using it to handle my anxiety and my control issues, and there is nothing normal about that.
So this is where I openly and publicly put myself on blast, so to speak. I want to gain control over my drinking and work myself to a point where I can have a glass of wine or a beer when the occassion calls for it, not just because it is dinner and I feel that wine goes with all meals. I hate that I can't just say no, blame it on my lack of control or whatever but I need to get this under control. I want to have certain things and certain relationships in my life, and right now I am putting those things off because it is easier to drown it all out.
The year may not have started off as wonderful as I would have liked, but that is not going to stop it from getting better. It won't be easy, if it was I would not be struggling with this whole issue at all... But it will be worth it. I want to do so many other things with my nights and weekends and I know that cutting out the booze will get me there. So here starts the detox/lifestyle change.
If you read this and think to yourself "it's about time," know that I agree but right now I don't know that I want to hear it. Get back to me on this in a couple of weeks when I am past the initial struggle of all of this.
Happy New Years to everyone! And wish me luck, I know that I am going to need it!